Types of love

Some time back I remember writing about crush here and had promised to discuss love. It’s time that we talk a bit about this much hyped and most sought after feeling.

Before we start let me tell you that we are not going to discuss that kind of love where it is essentially the exploitation of a vulnerable mind…the kind we get to see around us all the time. We shall talk about that type of love which gives you the feeling of being born again, which gives you the bliss of living every moment, which gives you serenity in being yourself.

There are 3 common ways of falling for someone.

Type 1:  Remember the times when you were a kid and you wanted to possess every thing that was shiny and colourful? Then you grew up…slowly and steadily this behaviour translated into falling in love with attractive people. Now when you are fascinated by someone’s good looks the immediate reaction in you is a strong desire to own this person and to nurture him/her as your own. 

Love manifests itself in the form of admiration of beauty…a logic defying desire to own beauty.

Type 2: Say you have someone with whom you share every mundane detail of your life. What is the first emotion that you would feel on suddenly reaching great success or great failure? A strong need to share it with someone…and not just anyone…it has to be that person with whom you have shared the smooth and lacklustre pace of life. And you suddenly realize that you have always been in love with this person.

Love manifests itself in the form of dependency…an irreversible bond of dependency.

Type 3: You see someone…you feel irresistibly drawn to the person…suddenly all other emotions fade into oblivion and the physical need supercedes all your basic activities. You try to distract yourself with work and hobbies but it’s futile. You seek relief in sleep but he/she seduces you in your dreams and you wake up with an emptiness followed by a strong longing. Then you throw caution to the wind…meet this person and sleep with him/her…expecting the heat to die out. But no!!! You get addicted to this person and now you feel incomplete, unhappy and often ill if you don’t get regular sessions between the sheets.

Love manifests itself in the form of carnal heat…an irreversible bond of physical desire.

If you have found any one type smile to yourself and to the one you love and say “thank you” to each other.

If you have found a person who churns in you all three types…take a moment to close your eyes and say “thank you” to Destiny.