Arranged marriage has a number of stereotypes associated
with it.
“Arranged marriage is a safer bet because you include the
consent of your elders…”
“Arranged marriage has a greater chance of success because
people are willing to adjust more…”
“Arranged marriage is much more preferable because we are
Indians…”
…and it goes on.
Also, arranged often gets tagged as “not cool enough” among
the “urban and educated” Indian population.
Well, I am not here to defend or deface arranged marriage.
You can be a pro love marriage person or a pro arranged marriage person; I
would not object because that’s just your own business. Just stay clear of
calling it the grammatically incorrect yet beautifully rhyming “arrange
marriage” and I would not have a bone to pick with you.
Let me go on to say what I actually wanted to say.
Getting to sleep with a stranger is a popular female
fantasy. Brought up within the confines of a conservative society, educated
about the perils of having a sexual relationship with an unknown hunk, a woman
feels unsure about living her fantasy. So what do they do? Settle for a boring
carnal life instead? Die with lust that never got satiated?
No! This is where arranged marriage makes itself useful!
Arranged marriage gives a woman the chance to live her
fantasy of losing her virginity to a little known man. (Alert for
intellectually superior people: This is not sarcasm, go for the literal
meaning.) To the society he is your husband so it is “morally legal” to sleep
with him, to you he is still an unknown attractive hunk who turns you on. Now,
this is what I call a win-win situation.
