Law of attraction

The time period taken by a subject to fall in love with another subject is exactly equal to the time taken by the former subject to get over them.

Explanation:

1. T=1 second:
You see a person and fall in love. Soon you see that person with their lover. You perform a mental comparison of yourself and the lover, emerge the clear winner and turn away with a complacent sneer. (What? You lost? May be you had been aiming too high.)

2. T=1 week:
You can’t just think of anything else but them. You decide to gift a chocolate then change your decision to a flower and then back to chocolate (since flowers don’t come with the safety valve of ”I think of you as a friend”). You are just about to present the chocolate when she/he starts to babble about her/his boyfriend/girlfriend. You eat the chocolate yourself, bless yourself for the judicious decision taken earlier, eat some more chocolates during the course of the week and move on.


3. T=4months:
You were so in love with this person and now you have to move to another place. You know things can’t work out. You turn to songs for comfort and they croon about your lovelorn self. You take to reading books and find that the stories are woven around your love life. You run to the movies for solace and again find the movies have also been made about you. You curse the world and rush to your friends and become the talking point for one day. Then find that almost every one else has had one or more such experiences. You realize that there is indeed more to life.

4. T=4 years:
Hmm...trust me and give it 4 years...you will get over them. If you don’t you can kill me. (You have to find me first...and I hide well!)

Aberration from the law: Let’s call this aberration the case of swinging interest.

Say there is someone whom you have liked for 5 weeks and then the person makes an appearance in green and scarlet. You immediately get over this person and find a new interest. The trick is that your liking for that fashion disaster returns when you find that the adoring qualities are still existing in that person. Again you like this person for a year and one fine day the person chooses to criticize you about something that you are insecure about. You take the insult bravely, save the tears for the night and again find a new interest the morning after. Basically, this person acts as a buffer. Nature abhors vacuum and so does your heart. So whenever there’s a lull you can fantasize about the buffer. So this continues...until one day you find that the person has turned you off and you are not willing to find a new interest. In fact you are finding the annoying qualities adoring too. The buffer needs to be buffered!!! Or...may be it’s time to take your swinging interest seriously.


Thin ice...buddies...thin ice...tread carefully.

PS: Some real life examples would have made my article more delectable but that would have caused a little inconvenience to some people and a lot of inconvenience to my very existence...so...

Illusion

“Dur ki cheez hi kyun laagi hai haseen
Paas ki cheez ka kyuh nehi hai yakeen...”

The apparently shallow lines evoke an absolute truth. Now you'd say nothing is absolute, everything is relative and I’d ask you about the statement you have just made and this would go on for a while…so coming back to what I wanted to say: Things appear far more appealing from a distance than when you approach them.

Instance 1: Nature. The verdant forests, the lush wily pastures, the pristine saintly mountains, the meandering coquettish rivers, the silent celibate deserts, all look to be beckoning us, enticing us to give up mundane daily chores and to join them in their salubrity. But before you give up your life…let’s take a closer look…everywhere you would go you would have to live among muck. Yeah…I know birds and animals look so happy and free. But would you be ok to live in unsanitary (yuck yuck…) environment without the amenities that you are used to?

Instance 2: (Apparently) timeless songs. You are sitting in the window seat of the bus…a gentle breeze is wafting through your hair...the background music is a beautiful song (the lyrics of which may well have been written keeping you in mind)…you are completely lost in your fantasies… And then the bus starts to move…you strain your ears to catch the fading tunes…but the song fades away in the chatter. What happens next? You go home, download the song, listen to it a thousand and one times, get your eardrums fatigued and replace the song with a new one.

Why do we inevitably do this? Why are we hellbent on killing the aura? Is it not better to observe from a distance and pine away for the surreal charm rather than possessing it only to plunge into the smothering monotony?

PS: Alternative title for the article could have been “Commitment phobia”.